Since it seems like everyone is coming out of the woodwork now, I may as well contribute. Many of you will choose not to believe me, of this I’m completely positive, but hopefully someday you’ll realize that I have absolutely no reason to lie about the following. And when school starts in a week and I all but disappear from this blog, you’ll have even more reason to believe that I really am not lying about this.
Now, to be clear, I didn’t start this blog with the express intention of it being satire or some sort of study (see kristenstewart-ahomewrecker and robstenishistory) but my purpose was nonetheless similar - I wanted to expose the fact that we will believe whatever it is that makes us feel better, whatever suits the story we want to believe, even in the face of radically opposing facts and logic.
Now, I have never watched any of the Twilight films. I saw that Harry Potter that Rob was in and Adventureland that Kristen was in, but to be completely frank, I have almost no recollection of either of their performances in those moves. Before three weeks ago, I assumed Kristen Stewart was gay and that all those rumors about the two Twilight stars dating were just that - rumors. I am not “Robsessed” as some have accused me of being; you’ll see I don’t have posts dedicated to how glorious Rob is, because to me he just seems like a normal but rather plain dude who appears decent enough but whose acting chops seem fairly generic. Now, that being said. It’s not exactly a secret that I have a great amount of disdain for what Kristen Stewart did - but before the scandal, I barely gave her a second thought. I didn’t follow her actions any more than the average 17 year old high school girl who is exposed to pop culture. What bits and pieces I had come across about her in interviews and magazines always made cringe in second-hand embarrassment, as I felt her constant talk of being “real” always seemed egocentric and gave off a sense of feeling above her peers, but it’s not anything I gave a serious thought to because I had no personal investment in what she did.
When I finished my summer internship a few weeks ago, I came across several articles about this whole shebang - there was really no avoiding it, as it even showed up reputable news zines like the Atlantic and Slate. And sure, the scandal itself was shocking, yes - A married man with kids? You mean Kristen Stewart isn’t a lesbian? Who even knew she and that Twilight dude were dating in the first place? - but what really, really did me in was the hundreds, thousands of desperate, manic, sometimes absolutely mental comments that were being written by the second about this actress. Of course, I thought what she did was morally repugnant and hypocritical in the extreme, but I was even more shocked by the fact that there were and are so many people out there trying to ignore, defend, or flat out refute facts simply because they find them unappetizing to process. They want to believe something so much that they willfully distort truths and logical reasoning to make the real world fit into their artificially constructed world - their neat little box of happy thoughts. They cherry pick the facts they like and mold it to their happy story, while denouncing the facts they don’t like as slanderous lies. And they will viciously attack anyone who tries to point out evidence to the contrary.
Now, before “Robstens” get all up in arms thinking I’m addressing them solely, I want to be very clear that I don’t exempt “Nonstens” from doing this either. From all the facts and evidence I’ve seen, it seems pretty damn obvious that Rob and Kristen were in fact dating before all of this, and that it wasn’t just a PR stunt. Anything said to the contrary just don’t make any common sense.
Krisbians/Robstens: In the end, I really don’t think Kristen Stewart is this wholly vile, disgusting person who is the lowest of lowest pond scum on earth. How could I? None of us actually know her. However, there are facts and real quotes that prove that she needs to seriously work on her moral character. Fact: Kristen Stewart cheated on her boyfriend of three years multiple times over the course of weeks with a married man and father of two whose wife and children she worked with and befriended, and then went home to her boyfriend each time and pretended like everything was fine… until she got caught. Fact: as a self-proclaimed stickler for honesty, genuineness, and being above the fakeness of Hollywood, Kristen Stewart has shown herself to be a hypocrite in the extreme. Do not try to trivialize or lessen the severity of actions clearly devoid of moral conscience; it would make the world a morally decrepit place if we all did that. When we as human beings make bad choices, we must face the consequences, and celebrities are not exempt from this. Now, this doesn’t mean you can’t be rooting for her to change and become a better person/actress/whathaveyou after all this - but this doesn’t mean you can willfully distort the factual truths of what happened either, and this doesn’t mean you can issue vehement personal attacks to those who try to point out those inconvenient truths.
Nonstens: Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart dated. They lived together for a while, they went to weddings together, they kissed off-set. Deal with it. If you want to point out the ways in which Robstens twist the truth, you have to be willing to own up when you twist truths as well. None of us know what the status of their relationship is - maybe they don’t even know - and I highly suspect that every little thing, every supposed sign or quote from now until the end of the Breaking Dawn movie cycle, will be carefully constructed PR from both sides. So sure, go ahead and root for Rob to move on and find someone who won’t cheat on him, but again, why issue vehement personal attacks to those who want him to go back to Kristen?
Please learn to embrace facts, logic, and reason. The truth is neither wholly beautiful nor wholly ugly - it simply is, and it is ever changing, ever evolving. What is today may not be tomorrow, and you can’t bank your happiness on Rob/Kristen being together forever, or on Rob/Kristen being apart forever.
Lastly, I do hope that you will be able to see that I am being 100% sincere in this post. Unfortunately, the last few weeks have all but convinced me that, once certain people commit themselves to a certain dogma, no amount of reason or evidence to the contrary will dissuade them from that stance. So I fully accept that I will still receive messages along the lines of me being, still, a “slut-shaming asshole,” a “pathetic bitch,” etc. That’s fine. Just know that I will not be affected by any of that, because once school starts and my brief stint in trying to understand this crazy, crazy fandom is over, nothing about Rob/Kristen/Twilight will impact my life. I therefore have no reason to lie about this. All I hope is that people will be able to make more balanced assessments of the truth, to accept that no amount of wanting something to be true makes that something true, to realize that the facts are not always to your liking and that sometimes you need to update your beliefs in the face of evidence to the contrary.